“When a man gives his opinion, he’s a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she’s a bitch.”
– Bette Davis
I did not understand until today how terrible things have become for women. So tell me, my friend, what do we do when the people in government twist the meaning of words? I feel we’ve seriously entered into a war on women.
This is what has sent me over the deep-end:
“It’s difficult for me to call myself a feminist in a classic sense because it seems to be very anti-male, and it certainly is very pro-abortion, and I’m neither anti-male or pro-abortion.”
– KellyAnn Conway
Merriam Webster today even tweeted the meaning of feminism in response. “The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities.” USA today
Wow! Note that the meaning has nothing to do with man hating or abortion. Words are not meaningless. Words are not 1984 backwards words. Words should be meaningful and deliberate, especially when used by people in government, especially when they are charged words, words that people have fought for.
“Feminism is hated because women are hated. Anti-feminism is a direct expression of misogyny; it is the political defense of women hating. ” -Andrea Dworkin
When I entered the job market as an entry-level secretary, women were still being chased around desks by their bosses. The Mary Tyler Moore show was groundbreaking, a single woman on TV! The majority of women did not have jobs in management. Birth control, “the pill,” was relatively new. There were new songs on the radio like “R.E.S.P.E.C.T” – 1968 and “I Will Survive – 1978.” I Will Survive
There was Helen Reddy. I am strong. I am invincible. I am woman.
Enjoli perfume ads in the 1970s….recognized women as both sexy and smart. “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never, ever let you forget you’re a man.” Well, now, there’s an antiquated ad campaign. Bacon is delicious but bad for you…and it’s not up to me to remind you of your manliness. Men can figure that out for themselves. The spend countless Sundays on the couch doing so.
Although all my brothers went to college, coming from a pretty poor family, I was not encouraged to go to a University. My own mom told me she thought I’d be ok as long as I could type. Granted, my parents were born in 1917 and 1924. I did convince them to let me go to college, and in fact am the only one of my siblings to get a Master’s degree.
When I moved into my college dorm, my freshman roommate shared with me the fact that she had been gang raped by an angry ex-boyfriend and his friends. I did not know how to comfort her, what to say. I don’t know how many other women I know have been raped, it isn’t the subject of everyday conversation. but I know of others. #IAmAFeminist.
I see Rush Limbaugh has something to say about feminism. But unfortunately, he appears only to value women for their looks. He should be ashamed of himself. But I guess the Oxycontin was affecting his brain:
“Feminism was established to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream.” –Rush Limbaugh
And, in light of her modeling career, our First Lady should at least speak out for education. Sorry Melania, but the following quote highlights that a woman isn’t just about how she looks in a bikini:
“Value yourself for what the media doesn’t – your intelligence, your street smarts, your ability to play a kick-ass game of pool, whatever. So long as it’s not just valuing yourself for your ability to look hot in a bikini and be available to men, it’s an improvement.” – Jessica Valenti
It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” – Warsan Shire
(And people wonder why feminists are angry. ) The following quote makes me so angry I can’t even address it. except that it makes me wish I practiced witchcraft. The Christian religious right weighs in….
“Feminism is a socialist, anti-family, political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians. ” –Pat Robertson
When all else fails, blame women. Anyone who says “welfare mother” in my presence can just take a hike. There is no accountability for the men who impregnated these women. Dead beat dads are largely forgotten, but the term “welfare moms” is alive and well.
Feminism isn’t new. Neither is opposition to feminists. (Whatever happened to “we’ve come a long way, baby?” )
“I myself have never able to find out precisely what a feminist is. I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute.” — Rebecca West (1913)
So I think we have an obligation to speak…. Elizabeth Cady Stanton, the mother of the women’s movement, you know — before women were ALLOWED to vote — she said we must speak.
“The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.” –Elizabeth Cady Stanton
I honestly feel that women deserve some empathy. Men do not experience periods or menopause. They do not risk their lives in childbirth; men do not nurse their babies in closets, or pump breast milk at work. They simply can’t. My own husband was not laid-off a week after telling his employer he was pregnant. He didn’t get to experience that injustice at all, except vicariously. I wouldn’t call him a “woman-hater.” How can being a feminist mean being a “man-hater?” I don’t hate men…I hate injustice and inequality.
“The stereotypes of feminists as ugly, or man-haters, or hairy, or whatever it is – that’s really strategic. That’s a really smart way to keep young women away from feminism, is to kind of put out this idea that all feminists hate men, or all feminists are ugly; and that they really come from a place of fear.” — Jessica Valenti
Susan B . Anthony also believed in equal rights for women….of course we still don’t have a woman on any paper money, nor do we have equal representation in government. Then there’s the nomination of DeVos, who wants only the rich and religious to be educated.
“If all the rich and all of the church people should send their children to the public schools they would feel bound to concentrate their money on improving these schools until they met the highest ideals.” –Susan B. Anthony
And speaking of religion, why on earth do women accept the burden for being kicked out of the Garden of Eden? It’s a dangerous old story, blaming women…a story created by men….it existed even before they started burning women at the stake. Could we even blame women for trying the apple?
“Did perpetual happiness in the Garden of Eden maybe get so boring that eating the apple was justified?” — Chuck Palahniuk
And now that we have knowledge….
“The apple cannot be stuck back on the Tree of Knowledge; once we begin to see, we are doomed and challenged to seek the strength to see more, not less.” –Arthur Miller
Our President said he had “grabbed women” by their private parts. He’s a man of power. He’s a multi-millionaire. That is not OK. That is not classy. That is not a gentleman.
Yoko Ono, one of the most hated women in America at one point, blamed for breaking up the Beatles, believed in feminism. She was a strong woman. She took on John Lennon. She took on the Vietnam war. She had this to say:
“There’s many women now who think, ‘Surely we don’t need feminism anymore, we’re all liberated and society’s accepting us as we are’. Which is just hogwash. It’s not true at all.” –Yoko Ono
It isn’t just a US problem…it’s an international problem. Although women have had rights here since the 1920s, we can’t forget there is inequality across the world. I am not a privileged woman, especially compared to say –Ivanka Trump –, so I don’t exactly agree with feminism as dated, but we are indeed privileged compared to women in other countries. American women are not stoned to death, we are not raped in retaliation for the actions of our families. Knowing this, how can one deny feminism??
“Why are we not valuing the word ‘feminism’ when there is so much work to be done in terms of empowerment and emancipation of women everywhere?”– Annie Lennox
Domestic Violence. The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during that time was 11,766. That’s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war.
“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.”
Who has denied woman equality in the first place? Why are we not represented equally in government? Why are we not on the dollar? We send our children to daycare with chains around our working necks. We make 78 cents on men’s dollars. We don’t have adequate healthcare…look at medical bankruptcies. Our voices have been silenced. We need our power back. This ball, rolling in this direction, simply can’t continue on this path. One has to be able to voice an opinion, to speak one’s mind. I’m not a man hater, and I think abortion is a very difficult choice that a woman (sometimes a child) has a right to make. She can die in childbirth, she has the right NOT to do die, to choose a better life, or a life at all, for herself. It is her body, and you can’t force a woman to carry a baby.
“The day may be approaching when the whole world will recognize woman as the equal of man.” –Susan B. Anthony
Newtons first law of motion states that “An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.” Inertia…. I think I remember, what slows the force is friction.
I’m pro-equality, pro-quality of life, I’m pro-humanity…which means being pro-woman. I am certainly not afraid to say so, and I must add, Kelly Ann Conway needs to seriously re-examine her beliefs.
“As a woman I have no country. As a woman I want no country. As a woman my country is the whole world.” –Virginia Woolf